Negative Relationships

In life, ‘bad’ things may come our way, but in the end, after it’s all said and done, life goes on. Who are we to say what is good and bad? Something that seems bad at a certain time in our lives, can be positive later on. It all depends on how you look at it. Negative things in our past can be learning experiences that make us stronger in the long run.

Whether you’ve been through a negative relationship with a family member, a friend or a significant other, it can feel the same. I know it’s hard, but in time things will get better. I honestly believe, when you go through tough times, you are being prepared for bigger and better things. Life is a constant learning experience.

I don’t wanna get too into it, but growing up with my mother was very hard. She didn’t treat me right, and made me feel like I had no voice what so ever. I still have issues with speaking up for myself and worrying that everyone is mad at me.

Eighteen years of living in fear is hard to erase, but I can honestly say that I would do it all again, because it made me who I am today.

Embrace your past! :) Feel free to share your stories! I would love to hear from you.

Christina Aguilera-Bionic

I wrote this on May 30th, and wasn't able to post it until today:

Who is as excited as I am for the latest Christina Aguilera album to come out? I wanted to share a fun little fact with all of you: on her website (http://www.christinaaguilera.com/us/news/listen-bionic-its-entirety) starting on May 31st, 2010, you can listen to her entire album. I am freaking out and can’t wait until tomorrow. I’m going to listen to it over and over. So far I have only heard the songs “Not Myself Tonight” and “Woo Hoo.” I am so excited for her fresh new sound and the futuristic vibe. Her voice is amazing and gives me chills every single time I hear it. It truly never gets old! She is the biggest inspiration for me, and her music helped me survive my childhood. I look up to her strength and her courage. I am so happy to see that she supports the LGBT community and women standing up for what they believe in. She has helped me come out of my shell and shown me that being sexy doesn’t mean you have to go over the top. If only all the parents out there who disagree with her actions could read between the lines. She is such an inspirational person, after everything she’s been through. She came out on top and now she’s showing other women that you can do what you want and you shouldn’t be told you can’t. I understand that things must be in reason, but the times are changing, women aren’t as repressed anymore, and we shouldn’t have to act any different than men do. Men can act all sexual but when we do, people call us all kinds of names. Let’s stand together and change it.


After you hear the album, tell me what you think :)

A Good Role Model

Yesterday I was flipping through a few magazines at the mall and came across the latest issue of Elle Magazine. I was really excited when I saw Kristen Stewart on the cover. I know a lot of people may think she’s rude or that she doesn’t appreciate her fame, but I really think she does. I look up to her, because she has shown us that it’s okay to be shy, it’s okay to be nervous. She to me is the most amazing celebrity. I don’t see any of her fame ever getting to her head. I think she will always see herself as just another girl in the world. I admire the fact that she stumbles through interviews, she isn’t perfect and she knows it. This is why I think she’s a really great role model. With girls only seeming to pay attention to the super thin models, the girls who act like they have anything, like they’re better than anyone else; I think we all need someone more down to earth, even if they don’t come around that often. I don’t understand what’s been going on with the world lately. Everyone seems to be so obsessed with people’s personal lives, who’s sleeping with who, who has the better clothes, the better car. Kristen shows us that you can be happy with a simple kind of life.

I honestly didn’t mean to make those two references to No Doubt lol, but they just kind of happened. So, what do you guys think about this topic?

Why all the hate?!

There has been something on my mind for a while now, and I just have to get it out. It seems like everywhere I turn, there are people making fun of the LGBT community. Why is it that people think it’s so wrong? Does it really matter who we sleep with? Honestly. I just don’t understand how one person’s sex life could be more important than another’s. It’s very upsetting to me to see what the LGBT community has to go through. Why is it then get questioned constantly, and they are pressured into speaking out about who they’re with. Those of us who are straight, are treated completely different. It’s really not fair and I wish it would stop.

How do you guys feel about this? I really would like to get some different perspectives. I think I am a very understanding person and if people from both sides could leave some comments explaining why they feel the way they do, that would be great. I would love to have a little debate about all this.

Help me understand..

A lot of my beliefs could be due to the fact that I’m not religious and I take pride in that. I don’t like religion because it reminds me of a club or a cult. I like to think for myself. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve met some great religious people who think for themselves and don’t go exactly by the book. I’m not trying to put people into groups.

I really look forward to your comments!

Do what makes you happy

Why is it that when people find out I’m an online writer, they tend to think I will not be able to make enough money and that I would be better off getting a “real” job. Okay, I get what they’re saying to a point, because this whole online thing is new, even to me. But, I am the kind of person who believes that you can do whatever you want and if you try hard enough and really have a passion for what you’re doing, things will work out. I know that may sound like a bit of a naïve thing to say, but I truly believe it. I know I’ve had a bit of luck throughout my life to be able to do what I’m doing now and test it out, but I have passion for writing. I have passion for helping people. I can’t help it. It’s funny too because I’ve known this my entire life, but was so focused on thinking about what I “should” do, and that held me back. So much of the time, I think we think in a way that society has taught us to and forget to “think outside the box”, as my boyfriend always says.

If there is something that you want to do in your life, something that you are so passionate about, and that would make you happy, go for it. You only have one life and at the end of the day, you have every right to be satisfied with yourself and what you’re doing. Do what feels right of you!

Twilight Fans Unite

So, I am a huge Twilight fan and was wondering what you guys think of the films. If you’ve read the books, which one is your favorite? For me, I would have to say the first one because I was introduced to this world that I never thought I would care about. I have never been a fan of vampires and fantasy, but man did Stephanie Meyer change my thinking on that! I love the fact that she made the vampires into something more human. It really makes it more relatable for me. I have never been into the whole “I’m a vampire and I’m going to just go around and bite people”. (Although 30 Days of Night was a really neat movie. So dark and creepy)

Anyway, I am the biggest dork when it comes to Twilight. I have never liked something this much. I have both of the movies on DVD, like 5 different Twilight hoodies, a bunch of jewelry and a blanket. Yes, my poor boyfriend has to deal with this haha. Good thing is; he’s pretty into it too. Not as much as me, but he does enjoy it.

Now for the big question: Team Edward or Jacob? I have been an Edward fan from the moment I started reading the books. I know his and Bella’s relationship isn’t perfect, but he just loves her so much and the fact that he’s willing to do anything for her is commendable. You gotta respect a man for that.

Love Yourself

One thing that I think is really important in life is to learn to love yourself. This applies not only in physical relationships, but with your family and friends as well. If you think about it, how is one capable to be there for another person, when they can’t even be there for themselves? A perfect example of this is my mother. She is a very depressed, and lonely person. She hated herself, so wasn’t there for me and my siblings growing up. It was almost as if we didn’t have a mother at all. My mom was so lost in her own head and her own trouble and pain, that she sometimes couldn’t even get out of bed, wasn’t able to walk us to the bus stop. Sadly, in her case, she always drank her troubles away. Although, she would wake up the following day and she would have to deal with herself again, and a hangover.


Many people deal with their problems and their hatred for themselves in the worst ways possible. I will admit, I’ve been there. When I was depressed, I would avoid people and push everyone away who mattered to me. I was determined to make it on my own. What I failed to realize is that sometimes we need other people to help us get on our feet again. Some may say this is weak, but it’s not. Admitting you’re wrong or you need help is a major strength, and it’s probably one of the hardest things for any of us to do.

My previous relationships have been perfect examples of not loving myself and what it can do to your life. I was with people who were in no way right for me, and I knew it. However, I did whatever I could in my own mind to avoid the situation together and how it was making me feel. Where did that get me? To being unhappy, depressed and having panic attacks. I acted like everything was fine and put on a smile each day. I was with these guys for all the wrong reasons, and no matter what anyone said or tried to do to help me, I refused to change. I figured, I have found these guys who love me, when no one else will, so I can’t leave. That’s not the case, and no matter who you are, that will never be the case. If you love yourself, you give yourself more opportunities and you open up more doors because you aren’t afraid to be alone and take chances! It’s amazing how one simple fact really did change my life. You can do it to.

So, take a look at your life, and make sure you’re really happy. Are you doing what you like to do or what other want you to do? Are you happy with who you are? Who you’re becoming? If yes, then give yourself a pat on the back for loving yourself!