Dad Advice needed :(

Okay, so my dad grew up with my grandmother (his mom) always paying for everything and he's lived with her like 98% of his life, probably closer to 100%. So, I wanted to tell you guys a little bit about the current situation and see if anyone has any tips on how I can handle this:

So, to start off, my grandma passed away and he's going to have to sell the house and start working. Well, most of grandma's money was given to me, and he expects me to let him borrow a TON of it so he can get an apartment. I love him, but I'm not sure he'll pay me back. Also, I keep mentioning how he needs to get a job, and he keeps slacking and putting it off. I'm am just SO insanely annoyed with him and don't want to help him at all. Grandma always told me to not let him use me like he did to her. What should I do? Because he honestly thinks I'm just gunna give him money and that it's okay.

I don't trust the guy :( I'm so upset about this!! I love my dad a lot and wish him the best but I can't sit around and pay for him for the rest of his life. He keeps making excuses like, "Well, I have a lot of packing to do and the new job wouldn't give me the days off." That's SO not true and he knows it!
It's so hard for me, because he's my dad and I love him so much, but he has major issues! You know? I mean, he gets drunk sometimes for an entire week and last time that happened, he kicked me and slapped my bf. He's just such a mean person when he drinks. How can he possibly keep a job when he gets that way. I honestly can only picture him being homeless as sad as that sounds.

Oh ya, another question I had for you guys was:

My dad and I have a car and it's in both of our names, should I take it off? I live in Washington USA, and I'm worried about getting in trouble if he crashed or hit a person or something like that. Any ideas?

Thanks in advance to anyone who replies, it means a lot to me!

Grandma's Birthday

Today marks the exact day that my grandmother passed away, just two months ago. It's so weird waking up and not having her here, not being able to see her, speak to her. Today would have been her 85th birthday. I took some time and wrote a little note for her on my website. I really feel so blessed to have met such a wonderful woman! She was so kind and so giving. She put everyone else above her. I miss her terribly and can't wait to see her again one day. Have any of you lost someone you loved? What did you do to make it easier to deal with? I’m hoping one day I can wake up and it won’t feel like such a dream. Lately, I’ve been dreaming a lot about her and it’s been very comforting because I get to see her and hear her voice again. I feel so lucky to have so many videos of her that I can look at when I miss her. I’m still in shock in a way. I mean, she was just here, she’s always been here, and now she’s just.. gone. I wish I could explain in words how much she meant to me but I’m not sure it’s possible. She was my mom, one of my best friends, the main person in my life. I went to her for anything and everything. She was my support in every sense of the word. She listened to me, loved me and showed me how to be a good person. She was a person to look up to, and a person to trust. I’m not sure if I’ll ever meet anyone in my lifetime like her again and I hope that all of you reading this can experience, even if just for a moment, someone like her. When you do, you’ll never forget, because it will be a very special moment indeed.


<3 RIP Grandma. I LOVE YOU <3

I will never forget you!!