One thing that I think is really important in life is to learn to love yourself. This applies not only in physical relationships, but with your family and friends as well. If you think about it, how is one capable to be there for another person, when they can’t even be there for themselves? A perfect example of this is my mother. She is a very depressed, and lonely person. She hated herself, so wasn’t there for me and my siblings growing up. It was almost as if we didn’t have a mother at all. My mom was so lost in her own head and her own trouble and pain, that she sometimes couldn’t even get out of bed, wasn’t able to walk us to the bus stop. Sadly, in her case, she always drank her troubles away. Although, she would wake up the following day and she would have to deal with herself again, and a hangover.
Many people deal with their problems and their hatred for themselves in the worst ways possible. I will admit, I’ve been there. When I was depressed, I would avoid people and push everyone away who mattered to me. I was determined to make it on my own. What I failed to realize is that sometimes we need other people to help us get on our feet again. Some may say this is weak, but it’s not. Admitting you’re wrong or you need help is a major strength, and it’s probably one of the hardest things for any of us to do.
My previous relationships have been perfect examples of not loving myself and what it can do to your life. I was with people who were in no way right for me, and I knew it. However, I did whatever I could in my own mind to avoid the situation together and how it was making me feel. Where did that get me? To being unhappy, depressed and having panic attacks. I acted like everything was fine and put on a smile each day. I was with these guys for all the wrong reasons, and no matter what anyone said or tried to do to help me, I refused to change. I figured, I have found these guys who love me, when no one else will, so I can’t leave. That’s not the case, and no matter who you are, that will never be the case. If you love yourself, you give yourself more opportunities and you open up more doors because you aren’t afraid to be alone and take chances! It’s amazing how one simple fact really did change my life. You can do it to.
So, take a look at your life, and make sure you’re really happy. Are you doing what you like to do or what other want you to do? Are you happy with who you are? Who you’re becoming? If yes, then give yourself a pat on the back for loving yourself!