Why all the hate?!

There has been something on my mind for a while now, and I just have to get it out. It seems like everywhere I turn, there are people making fun of the LGBT community. Why is it that people think it’s so wrong? Does it really matter who we sleep with? Honestly. I just don’t understand how one person’s sex life could be more important than another’s. It’s very upsetting to me to see what the LGBT community has to go through. Why is it then get questioned constantly, and they are pressured into speaking out about who they’re with. Those of us who are straight, are treated completely different. It’s really not fair and I wish it would stop.

How do you guys feel about this? I really would like to get some different perspectives. I think I am a very understanding person and if people from both sides could leave some comments explaining why they feel the way they do, that would be great. I would love to have a little debate about all this.

Help me understand..

A lot of my beliefs could be due to the fact that I’m not religious and I take pride in that. I don’t like religion because it reminds me of a club or a cult. I like to think for myself. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve met some great religious people who think for themselves and don’t go exactly by the book. I’m not trying to put people into groups.

I really look forward to your comments!

Do what makes you happy

Why is it that when people find out I’m an online writer, they tend to think I will not be able to make enough money and that I would be better off getting a “real” job. Okay, I get what they’re saying to a point, because this whole online thing is new, even to me. But, I am the kind of person who believes that you can do whatever you want and if you try hard enough and really have a passion for what you’re doing, things will work out. I know that may sound like a bit of a naïve thing to say, but I truly believe it. I know I’ve had a bit of luck throughout my life to be able to do what I’m doing now and test it out, but I have passion for writing. I have passion for helping people. I can’t help it. It’s funny too because I’ve known this my entire life, but was so focused on thinking about what I “should” do, and that held me back. So much of the time, I think we think in a way that society has taught us to and forget to “think outside the box”, as my boyfriend always says.

If there is something that you want to do in your life, something that you are so passionate about, and that would make you happy, go for it. You only have one life and at the end of the day, you have every right to be satisfied with yourself and what you’re doing. Do what feels right of you!

Twilight Fans Unite

So, I am a huge Twilight fan and was wondering what you guys think of the films. If you’ve read the books, which one is your favorite? For me, I would have to say the first one because I was introduced to this world that I never thought I would care about. I have never been a fan of vampires and fantasy, but man did Stephanie Meyer change my thinking on that! I love the fact that she made the vampires into something more human. It really makes it more relatable for me. I have never been into the whole “I’m a vampire and I’m going to just go around and bite people”. (Although 30 Days of Night was a really neat movie. So dark and creepy)

Anyway, I am the biggest dork when it comes to Twilight. I have never liked something this much. I have both of the movies on DVD, like 5 different Twilight hoodies, a bunch of jewelry and a blanket. Yes, my poor boyfriend has to deal with this haha. Good thing is; he’s pretty into it too. Not as much as me, but he does enjoy it.

Now for the big question: Team Edward or Jacob? I have been an Edward fan from the moment I started reading the books. I know his and Bella’s relationship isn’t perfect, but he just loves her so much and the fact that he’s willing to do anything for her is commendable. You gotta respect a man for that.

Love Yourself

One thing that I think is really important in life is to learn to love yourself. This applies not only in physical relationships, but with your family and friends as well. If you think about it, how is one capable to be there for another person, when they can’t even be there for themselves? A perfect example of this is my mother. She is a very depressed, and lonely person. She hated herself, so wasn’t there for me and my siblings growing up. It was almost as if we didn’t have a mother at all. My mom was so lost in her own head and her own trouble and pain, that she sometimes couldn’t even get out of bed, wasn’t able to walk us to the bus stop. Sadly, in her case, she always drank her troubles away. Although, she would wake up the following day and she would have to deal with herself again, and a hangover.


Many people deal with their problems and their hatred for themselves in the worst ways possible. I will admit, I’ve been there. When I was depressed, I would avoid people and push everyone away who mattered to me. I was determined to make it on my own. What I failed to realize is that sometimes we need other people to help us get on our feet again. Some may say this is weak, but it’s not. Admitting you’re wrong or you need help is a major strength, and it’s probably one of the hardest things for any of us to do.

My previous relationships have been perfect examples of not loving myself and what it can do to your life. I was with people who were in no way right for me, and I knew it. However, I did whatever I could in my own mind to avoid the situation together and how it was making me feel. Where did that get me? To being unhappy, depressed and having panic attacks. I acted like everything was fine and put on a smile each day. I was with these guys for all the wrong reasons, and no matter what anyone said or tried to do to help me, I refused to change. I figured, I have found these guys who love me, when no one else will, so I can’t leave. That’s not the case, and no matter who you are, that will never be the case. If you love yourself, you give yourself more opportunities and you open up more doors because you aren’t afraid to be alone and take chances! It’s amazing how one simple fact really did change my life. You can do it to.

So, take a look at your life, and make sure you’re really happy. Are you doing what you like to do or what other want you to do? Are you happy with who you are? Who you’re becoming? If yes, then give yourself a pat on the back for loving yourself!

Giving Back :)

You want to know what brings me the most happiness? Giving back. You don’t have to have a lot of money to help others, you just have to be willing to make small sacrifices. Let’s say, you get a coffee every morning on the way to work. Instead of doing that, why don’t you buy something that’s worth the same amount of money to a homeless person on the street. I’m sure they could use the food more than you could use that coffee. Lately, I have been buying food for the homeless more and more. I really do think it’s the best feeling in the world. I love to see the look on their face, just the complete shock, when you hand them a meal. Honestly, it doesn’t matter how much you spend. To them, a meal is a meal. Buy them something you would like and really appreciate. Giving back is something that my grandmother taught me. She was always such a sweet person and always thinking about everyone around her. I think she thought about others more than she thought about herself!

The last time I bought someone a meal with the other day. I was eating at this new restaurant in town called Caspers. It was really cold outside and pouring rain. A homeless man pulled up on his bike and came inside and sat down to warm himself up. I heard him say, “If you’re going to kick me out, do it now.” I felt so terrible, sitting there eating, so I walked over to the waitress and told her to let him buy anything he wanted. You should have seen the look on his face. He was so grateful and excited to get to eat cat fish. He reminded me that I added another ten days to his life. I thought that was very cute. He walked over to my table, and gave me a coin that said “Love Coin” on the front. It is something I will cherish forever.

What have you done to give back lately?

Dad Advice needed :(

Okay, so my dad grew up with my grandmother (his mom) always paying for everything and he's lived with her like 98% of his life, probably closer to 100%. So, I wanted to tell you guys a little bit about the current situation and see if anyone has any tips on how I can handle this:

So, to start off, my grandma passed away and he's going to have to sell the house and start working. Well, most of grandma's money was given to me, and he expects me to let him borrow a TON of it so he can get an apartment. I love him, but I'm not sure he'll pay me back. Also, I keep mentioning how he needs to get a job, and he keeps slacking and putting it off. I'm am just SO insanely annoyed with him and don't want to help him at all. Grandma always told me to not let him use me like he did to her. What should I do? Because he honestly thinks I'm just gunna give him money and that it's okay.

I don't trust the guy :( I'm so upset about this!! I love my dad a lot and wish him the best but I can't sit around and pay for him for the rest of his life. He keeps making excuses like, "Well, I have a lot of packing to do and the new job wouldn't give me the days off." That's SO not true and he knows it!
It's so hard for me, because he's my dad and I love him so much, but he has major issues! You know? I mean, he gets drunk sometimes for an entire week and last time that happened, he kicked me and slapped my bf. He's just such a mean person when he drinks. How can he possibly keep a job when he gets that way. I honestly can only picture him being homeless as sad as that sounds.

Oh ya, another question I had for you guys was:

My dad and I have a car and it's in both of our names, should I take it off? I live in Washington USA, and I'm worried about getting in trouble if he crashed or hit a person or something like that. Any ideas?

Thanks in advance to anyone who replies, it means a lot to me!

Grandma's Birthday

Today marks the exact day that my grandmother passed away, just two months ago. It's so weird waking up and not having her here, not being able to see her, speak to her. Today would have been her 85th birthday. I took some time and wrote a little note for her on my website. I really feel so blessed to have met such a wonderful woman! She was so kind and so giving. She put everyone else above her. I miss her terribly and can't wait to see her again one day. Have any of you lost someone you loved? What did you do to make it easier to deal with? I’m hoping one day I can wake up and it won’t feel like such a dream. Lately, I’ve been dreaming a lot about her and it’s been very comforting because I get to see her and hear her voice again. I feel so lucky to have so many videos of her that I can look at when I miss her. I’m still in shock in a way. I mean, she was just here, she’s always been here, and now she’s just.. gone. I wish I could explain in words how much she meant to me but I’m not sure it’s possible. She was my mom, one of my best friends, the main person in my life. I went to her for anything and everything. She was my support in every sense of the word. She listened to me, loved me and showed me how to be a good person. She was a person to look up to, and a person to trust. I’m not sure if I’ll ever meet anyone in my lifetime like her again and I hope that all of you reading this can experience, even if just for a moment, someone like her. When you do, you’ll never forget, because it will be a very special moment indeed.


<3 RIP Grandma. I LOVE YOU <3

I will never forget you!!